Navigating the highs and lows of life in the public eye is no easy feat, but according to Bambi and Rasheeda Frost of Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta, it’s all about evolution.
I recently had the opportunity to sit down with the reality show alumni via Zoom to chat about the latest season of LHHATL, which officially aired on Tuesday (July 23rd). Beyond the show, we also dived deep into the importance of self-care, work-life balance, and the importance of growth from season to season.
“It’s been 12 years. If you haven’t evolved in 12 years, there’s something wrong with you,” Rasheeda shared with a chuckle. “And I do know some people who have not evolved.”
Bambi agreed, adding that when she first came on the show she felt a bit of imposter syndrome. However, she didn’t let it stop her from finding her space amongst the cast. “When I first came on this platform, I kind of had imposter syndrome. […] I feel like I’ve evolved as a person,” she added.
Ahead, read the highlights from my candid conversation, including the lessons they’ve learned about self-control, work-life balance, and the importance of self-care as busy moms. [Scroll to the bottom of this article to watch the full video interview.]
Maintaining Work-Life Balance
When it comes to work-life balance, both successful entrepreneurs turn to their routines to make their lives smoother.
As the owner of House of Shimmer, Bambi revealed that despite her busy schedule, she always makes time to care for her physical and mental health. She explained, “It gives me the energy to conquer everything else that’s happening. Also, [I learned to] not put so much pressure on myself. There will be another day when I can handle some of this other stuff. You do as much as you can, and you do your best doing it. That’s all we can do.”
Rasheeda, the owner of Pressed and co-owner of Frost Bistro & Bar, emphasized the need for moms to put themselves first without feeling guilty.
“I realized that when you have a lot going on, something is not going to be at 100%,” she added, noting how most women put too much pressure on themselves to overperform. “We forget about ourselves sometimes. So I agree with having your me time or finding that thing that gives you satisfaction. You know, to give you that little extra jolt you need to rejuvenate, revive, and refocus. [It’s important to] realize that you’re not perfect and everything’s not going to be great all the time. Just let it be.”
Finding Peace And Happiness With The Help Of Self-Love
At BrownStyle Magazine, we are all about self-care, opulence, unity, and love. So, when I asked about the self-love acts that they do every day to enhance their soft life, I was happy to know both ladies find joy in spending time with their families and prioritizing their self-care routines.
According to Bambi, she has seen the overwhelming benefits of prayer, meditation, journaling, and Pilates. “Every morning when I wake up, the first thing I do is pray,” she candidly shared, adding although she is still learning how to meditate, she finds the self-care act helpful in remaining centered and focused on her goals.
Rasheeda finds peace in fasting and having a quiet place to self-reflect. “I like having my space. There’s a specific space at my home where I can sit, pray, and focus. I pour into myself. [..] It keeps me strong and focused because although I try not to let things get to me at difficult times or just in life period, you still just need that extra oomph sometimes,” she noted.
Advice For Moms Who Want To Live A Soft Life
Maintaining a soft life as a mom comes with its complications. However, Bambi strongly believes that leaning on your village is key to limiting stress in your life—whether that’s a nanny or people that you can truly trust.
“Don’t let anyone shame you into not getting help,” Bambi emphasized. “If you can find a village that you can trust, it will make your life so much easier because you can get some consistent breaks.”
Next up, drop the mom guilt. According to Rasheeda, it’s okay to put yourself at the forefront.
“We are the chef, the maid, the doctor, and everything else. We gotta put ourselves at the forefront. Just make sure you don’t feel guilty doing it because that’s what happens with us. We feel guilty about wanting to do our own thing because we care for everybody. Don’t feel guilty. Do it. Take the time you need and do what you need to do for you,” she insisted.
The Biggest Lesson Learned This Season
There’s’ no question, this season of Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta looks explosive! When asked what the biggest lesson they learned while taping season 12 was, both stars noted the importance of giving themselves grace and reminding themselves of the importance of staying cool.
“The biggest lesson that I’ve learned is to be more in control of my impulses and have more self-control,” Bambi shared.
Rasheeda seemed to echo her castmate’s sentiments. “Even though I do a good job of controlling myself, I want to just master that. I have to still do better. I kind of snapped a couple of times, and I don’t need to be doing that. I need to do better,” she noted.
Below, Watch Our Full Interview With Bambi And Rasheeda Frost Of ‘Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta’:
FYI: Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta airs every Tuesday at 8PM ET/PT on MTV.