‘Love Notes by Chi’ is BrownStyle Magazine‘s column—curated by professional matchmaker Chi Love— that answers your biggest questions about love, dating, and relationships.
Dating in 2025 will more than likely come with its own unique challenges, thanks to social media, dating apps, and ever-changing social norms. However, that doesn’t mean you should become pessimistic about building a genuine connection with someone special this year.
As a professional matchmaker, I constantly remind my clients to step into the new year optimistic and open minded about their dating experience. (FYI: It was my openness to love that led me to meet my husband during my trip to Nigeria. We married at the end of last year with a fabulous Nigerian wedding of my dreams!)
Looking to meet someone special in the new year? Ahead, here are my tips to help you build a meaningful relationship in 2025.
Reevaluate Your Priorities
The new year creates an opportunity to be intentional and reflect on what truly matters. Reevaluate your relationship goals and priorities. Are you seeking a long-term partnership, casual dating, or simply companionship? Being clear about your intentions will help you find like-minded individuals and avoid misunderstandings.
Embrace Digital Dating With A Purpose
Virtual dates are rising in popularity. While in-person meetings are the goal, the convenience and safety of digital dating have become more valuable than ever. When dating— especially online — embrace video calls as a preliminary step to screen potential matches. This can save time and help you gauge compatibility before meeting face-to-face.
Prioritize Health And Safety
Safety continues to be paramount in the new year. When planning in-person dates, be mindful of your surroundings. Choose a public venue to help relieve anxiety and help create a relaxed environment. Also, be sure to keep family/friends informed about important details about your date, including the location.
Focus On Emotional Connection
Instead of focusing solely on physical attraction, prioritize getting to know your date on a deeper level. Ask thoughtful questions about their values, dreams, and life experiences. Building a strong emotional foundation can lead to more meaningful and lasting relationships.
Incorporate Creativity In Dates
Traditional dating venues like restaurants are still go-to’s but also consider incorporating creativity to make your dates more memorable. Plan activities that allow you to connect in unique ways like visiting a museum, taking a cooking class together, or even trying an escape room. Creative dates not only reduce first-date jitters but also provide a shared experience to bond over.
Set Boundaries And Communicate Clearly
Clear communication and setting boundaries are essential in any relationship. Be honest about your comfort levels, time constraints, and personal boundaries. Whether it’s about physical intimacy or how often you wish to meet, clear communication ensures both parties are on the same page and helps build trust.
Leverage Professional Help
If you’re finding it challenging to navigate the dating scene, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Matchmakers and dating coaches can offer personalized advice, support, and introductions to compatible partners. Their expertise can streamline your dating journey and increase your chances of finding a meaningful connection.
Stay Positive And Open-Minded
The dating landscape has changed, but maintaining a positive and open-minded attitude is key. Embrace the journey with optimism, and don’t let past disappointments deter you. Every date is an opportunity to learn, grow, and get closer to finding the right match.
Invest In Self-Care And Personal Growth
Lastly, invest in yourself. Self-care and personal growth should always be a priority. Pursue hobbies, stay active, and maintain a healthy lifestyle. A fulfilled and confident individual naturally attracts healthy and meaningful relationships. When you feel good about yourself, it radiates, making you more attractive to potential partners.
