Love + Wellness x Dreka Gates is BrownStyle Magazine’s new column written by Dreka Gates. In this inspirational series, the mom and multi-hyphenate entrepreneur shares her secrets to love and wellness.
Love. Love is one of THE most powerful frequencies in the world. It allows us to heal from past traumas and manifest our wildest dreams. It opens us up and allows us to be vulnerable.
Growing up, I’ve always been very capable of having a vision, holding the vision, cultivating it, and essentially bringing it to life. I didn’t know how I was doing it; it was just something that I did.
What I didn’t realize as a teenager— and honestly didn’t realize until I was 34— is that my ability to harness the power of love is what allowed me to do these things.
Love Can Heal All Wounds
So many of us have experienced some form of trauma as children that all stems from a fear of loss of love. Thankfully, love allows us to access parts of ourselves that we otherwise probably wouldn’t be able to access.
I have witnessed firsthand how love has the power to heal.
Think about your child who’s having a fit. What do you think would happen if you gave that child the sincerest love-filled hug? More than likely, that child will melt in your arms.
This same thing can work with an adult in your life— including yourself— who may be experiencing a difficult time. Regardless of what they are feeling and expressing at the moment, meeting them with love can change everything.
Self-Love Is Key To Growth & Happiness
I experienced what I’d like to call radical self-love for the first time in my life during COVID-19. I had been working with a spiritual psychologist, who ironically has a non-profit titled, LOVE. He’d always said to me, “Be love. No matter what, the answer is love. Scared, angry, upset, fearful, hurt—meet it with love. Love is the secret, love is the superpower, love is the ANSWER.”
These words transformed my life.
During my reflections, I learned that the frequency of love is so high that it opens us up and allows us to be vulnerable. It allows us to be in a higher state of consciousness and awareness.
By accessing a higher state of consciousness and awareness, you can begin to recognize and acknowledge old stories and behavior patterns, meet them with love, and rewrite those stories to heal.
Besides healing, the frequency and vibration of love can also create your wildest dreams!
Reflecting On The Power Of Love
As a teenager, I read the book The Secret— a self-help book by Rhonda Byrne that teaches the principles of manifestation through visualization, gratitude, intention, and mastering your thoughts and feelings.
The Secret teachings are to have a vision and to feel like you already have those things. The key is to FEEL. So for example, what would it feel like to you to have your dream car or dream house? You would be filled to the brim, probably OVERFLOWING with the frequency of love, right? THAT’S the secret. Couple your vision with love and voila, bring your wildest dreams to life!
I had a full-circle moment.
Love Is A Superpower
So remember loves, love is super powerful. It has the power to heal and the power to manifest your dream life! It is my secret. It’s the secret to living a fulfilled life.
When we shower ourselves with love first, we can shower our loved ones with even more love. We can’t pour from an empty cup! Like they say on the airplanes, put your oxygen mask on first.
Editor’s Note: This story has been edited and condensed for clarity.
By BrownStyle Magazine in Special Editions
72 pages, published 1/17/2025
